Choice of parents to divorce
Sometimes divorce and separation means that the child must adapt to the choice of parents to divorce and remarry. For most children, divorce and separation of their parents is a serious emotional impact event. The world, as we understand, has changed forever. Their sense of stability may be seriously shaken. Some children fear being abandoned. It is, of course, impossible to protect you child from the pain, fear and uncertainty after the change of life. It is possible to support your child so that limit the negative impact of divorce and separation. The overall objective is to ensure that your child:
1. It will remain safe, loved and cared
2. That divorce and separation was not the fault of the child
3. That despite his world may look very different, will still be able to thrive and grow into competent adults You may be saying to yourself:
“Well, that sounds like a good idea, but how the hell I can do that?” One way to achieve your goal is to find out how successful co-parents “do” and then “do” the same things. The success of the co-parents are able to look to parents as something separate from being married. Her ex-husband and not her spouse, but (s) who is your co-parent then listed several objectives. The achievement of the following goes a long way in supporting your child and limiting the negative effects of divorce and separation from parents.
1. The children go from house to house to another without being made to feel guilty
2. Both parents respecting each other’s norms and values (Parenting Styles).
3. Each parent approves the list of their children with the other parent.
4. Parents can prevent children’s involvement in custody battles and visitation
5. Both parents reassure their children that they are loved
6. Both parents reassure their children that the divorce and separation is not the fault of the child
7. Both parents remind their children that the child is not responsible for collecting the
8 to the parents. Both parents to spend quality time with each child
9. None of the children’s parents used to send messages to other parents
10. Neither parent speaks negatively about the other parent … not even joking
11. Neither parent increases the child’s responsibility as far as for the absent parent
12. None of the parents of children with finance charges of discussions relating to divorce and separation
13. None of the parents questioned her about the other parent
14. Both parents have appropriate and adequate social networks support
15. Parents expect to date / marry until the children have adapted emotionally with the divorce and separation.
